ExPectAtions Mark Twain "A thing long expected takes the form of the unexpected when at last it comes." would this be the case all the time? that when u expect something to happen, it arrives in the least expected way...? sometimes life just gives you a whack in the face to tell u to wake up and stop dreaming, and expecting things to happen. perhaps, we should make things happen ourselves instead of waiting~! nah... it would appear too aggressive on our side... ain't it a dilemma? knowing what u want to happen, yet not daring to think too much into it, for the fear of being dejected and disappointed?
indeed, one can be objective about this thought of expectations. take for instance that though u expect yourself to score a certain grade, yet when u achieve that, it doesnt seem to surpass your expectations, thus leaving you a little disappointed. on the other hand, if u scored a lower grade, u'd probably slap yourself knowing you could do better. in this case, it's the feeling of regret and being discontented that consumes you? different people react differently in different situations but what is the best way to overcome this expectation of yourself?
this could probably be related to
confidence VS arrogance. while the former is a healthy way of projecting one's self-image, the latter seems to send out negative connotations of a person's character. these 2 could probably be used as indicators to access the extent of how disappointed one might feel if expectations were not met. the latter of which, objectively, would imply a deeper stab in the heart since they would think other people are bitching behind their backs leaving his/her ego injured.
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from a personal point of view, i am one who believes that one should not set too high an expectation of themselves. the mental and emotional stress alone, is enough to leave me panting for breath. but yes, i cant deny that i do set expectations of myself and expect myself to fulfil them. and sometimes it gets so frustrating that i break down and cry. but what keeps me going is my own persistence and determination to get things done. no matter how hard. it's tiring, yes, but throwing in the towel and walking away ain't gonna solve anything. so just brave the winds and go against the storm!
waiting is torturous, but rather than wait, why not just utilitze everyday as if it were the last. and then cherishing the people, situations and things around you, would indeed divert your attention away from the expectations of everyday life, minimizing the disappointment that may arise if expectations weren't in equilibrium.
